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Hockey Dad from Hell

You know the guy at the high school hockey game that yells at his kid and humiliates him in front of everyone? The guy who corners the coach after practice and demands that he change his strategy in order to fit his son’s game? Those guys suck and there seems to be one at every game.

But this guy…

The controversy that seized the Toronto Ice Dogs PeeWee “A” club — minor hockey’s lowest level of competitive play — emerged last month at a parents’ meeting called by George Atis, who has a child on the team, but is not part of the coaching staff.

The Thornhill lawyer drafted the agenda which included this item: “Kayla Watkins — Player Ability Limitations and Suggested Options.”

Kayla might not be a very good hockey player. George Atis witnessed her play and I didn’t, so it could be true that she has ‘ability limitations’. But she’s 12. She’s playing hockey because she loves the sport, not because she’s good at it.

He crossed the line here. Instead of just bitching to some of the other parents over a beer, or crying about it with a friend over the phone, he “drafted an agenda”, got the other parents to back him up and came up with an ultimatum to limit her playing time. What’s worse is she found out about it and quit the team. I don’t blame her. She would have felt like she didn’t belong there and that she didn’t deserve to be there. That no one liked her and that every mistake she made would be made worse knowing how all the other parents looked at her. That’s how Brett Lebda should feel, not Kayla Watkins.

The good news is, she’s on a new team that will appreciate her. The bad news is how it all went down. Parents, if your kid is the next “Great One”, but some other player is keeping them from shining, then your kid is not the next “Great One”. Just let them play.

Source: Buzzing the Net and thestar.com

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My hate for that male person grew as the article went on, as he revealed his obvious disdain for that girl’s mother over and over, and what I think is his real problem with the situation. It’s not a ‘try-out’ team, it’s an ‘everybody plays’ team.

In minor hockey there were seasons when there was one or sometimes two guys that weren’t near the rest of our skill levels, but we worked through it, and parents encouraged those players.

I played a season with a girl on the team and I felt awkward the first one or two ice times, then it became normal. If there was anyone on our team getting naked, it was one or two, and they walked to the shower with their underwear on. She was always the first one out of the room to avoid any problem.

These hockey ‘parent’ stories always seem to come out of Toronto and the surrounding areas.

Posted by NathanBC on 12/22/10 at 07:13 PM ET

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Oh;

...That’s how Brett Lebda should feel, not Kayla Watkins.”

Hahahahahaha

Posted by NathanBC on 12/22/10 at 07:14 PM ET

Chris from NOHS's avatar

Isn’t A a tryout team?

Still rediculous

Posted by Chris from NOHS from Columbus, OH/Grand Rapids, MI on 12/22/10 at 07:36 PM ET

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chris, according to the internets, you are correct; it is a tryout league. to me that almost makes it worse because she made the team. if she shouldn’t have, it’s not on her.

Posted by Twig from Houston, TX on 12/22/10 at 07:44 PM ET

awould's avatar

Great line about Lebda.

The lawyer in this affair should have his kid removed from the team. He’d surely understand that we’d all feel really bad for his kid to get booted, but the real blame would lay at his feet for meddling in the first place. By his own logic, he’d understand that. Dbag.

Posted by awould on 12/22/10 at 07:55 PM ET

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What a *#$%@&.

Posted by J.J. from Kansas on 12/22/10 at 08:06 PM ET

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very typical of organized sports. but not a rule.

growing up we had a girl on the team who was actually a lot bigger than a lot of the kids and she held her own. she was slow but could still play fairly decent for the age group (11-12). no one ever said ANYTHING about there being a girl on the team. none of the males ever made fun of her. none of the kids ever said anything to each other about it. she was just part of the team. to boot, in the massively “white” sport of hockey, she was half-black to add to the breaking “sacred taboos” to deal with. it was also a travel team.

so as much as this story sucks (along with all the parents who backed this loser dad), there should be mention of kids and parents who arent complete douche bags. and are willing to be inclusive instead of exclusive.

not to mention, there were WAY more parental politics going on that frustrated me beyond anything related to a girl being on the team that pissed me off as a kid. and eventually led me to quitting. still love the game, but the ultra-vicious competitive environment these DayDreamers can go to hell in a lot of respects. sometimes giving these people the bird and quitting is better than playing their pathetic meta-political games.

Posted by DeathMetalNightmare on 12/22/10 at 08:12 PM ET

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if your kid is the next “Great One”, but some other player is keeping them from shining, then your kid is not the next “Great One

Freakin’ poetry,Twig.

Posted by MarkK from Maryland on 12/22/10 at 08:18 PM ET

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This guy is a disgrace to his family, the game of hockey and its virtues, and the legal profession.

Posted by Jesters Dead on 12/22/10 at 09:53 PM ET

Baroque's avatar

Figures that it’s a lawyer, too. As though that profession needs any more jokes about it.

Posted by Baroque from Michigan on 12/22/10 at 10:05 PM ET

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